AWARENESS IN RELATIONSHIPS AND CONSCIOUS STRUCTURES OF LOVE #2
p.88-92
We are exploring relationships and love.
Who do you love? How do you love?
How much do you let yourself be loved?
What would your life be like if you knew--in your bones--that you are unconditionally loved all the time?
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Now much of the discussion begins with the idea of what used be called "giving your power away" or what the book calls "abnegating you authority."
One of the major points here is you are always in choice, even if you choose to give up your power or decide to be a victim.
Everything in life is about relationships in some way or another--our relationship with ourselves, with others, with God, with the world we live in. We can choose to react--reflexively to life situations or we can be more aware, refine our choices and respond lovingly. Much easier said than done, but true nonetheless.
“Now the relationships that you manifest in your environment are created by you to know yourself, to see yourself, and to believe in your own worth through activation and transformation. Now we will explain this: If you have an authority in your life who you are frightened by, you have created a situation where you have to learn your own relationship to your own authority. The outrage that people experience at authority figures is usually outrage that is meant to be directed at the self for not being the one in authority, and the mirror is effective, but only to the extent that the individual sees what is truly happening.”
There are some parts of this chapter that I equated with our present political situation. (Please know, I am not making a judgment on any person, simply describing a situation as best I can.)
There are many people who are angry and frightened and who are willing to "elect" a spokesperson to speak to that anger and fear. What most people miss is that they are not really claiming their power, they are actually giving it away.
The book then focuses on relationship with others. Her again we are responsible--not for changing the other, but for being responsible ourselves for what we feel and what we do.
“Now to understand, once again, that you are the one in charge of all of your relationships forces you immediately to abandon the idea, the belief, and the investment in being one who is being victimized by anyone for any reason. Now we are not talking about physical experience right now. If you are walking down the street and somebody hits you in the nose because they are out hitting people in the nose, yes, in fact, that was created by you on an experiential level, but at the same time what we are really speaking of is the way you self-identify as a victim that brings these experiences to you.
Now it’s much easier to blame someone else for your issues than to take responsibility for them. But to the extent that you have the investment in blame, you become the victim who then cannot help to transform the circumstance that she says she wishes she would, once for and for all, change.”
(personally I though the book got a little bogged down here making a distinction between contract and commitment--so i decided to move on a bit..)
We ended up with:
“The free will of individuals to be in relation to one another always has to be made in an identification of conscious choice, aware choice, and not through systematized jurisdiction by external authority.”
I thought it might be interested for us to examine this week; "How free am I?" How many decisions am I making that are truly free as opposed to those that are dictated or controlled by some arbitrary rules in my head.
We are exploring relationships and love.
Who do you love? How do you love?
How much do you let yourself be loved?
What would your life be like if you knew--in your bones--that you are unconditionally loved all the time?
*********
Now much of the discussion begins with the idea of what used be called "giving your power away" or what the book calls "abnegating you authority."
One of the major points here is you are always in choice, even if you choose to give up your power or decide to be a victim.
Everything in life is about relationships in some way or another--our relationship with ourselves, with others, with God, with the world we live in. We can choose to react--reflexively to life situations or we can be more aware, refine our choices and respond lovingly. Much easier said than done, but true nonetheless.
“Now the relationships that you manifest in your environment are created by you to know yourself, to see yourself, and to believe in your own worth through activation and transformation. Now we will explain this: If you have an authority in your life who you are frightened by, you have created a situation where you have to learn your own relationship to your own authority. The outrage that people experience at authority figures is usually outrage that is meant to be directed at the self for not being the one in authority, and the mirror is effective, but only to the extent that the individual sees what is truly happening.”
There are some parts of this chapter that I equated with our present political situation. (Please know, I am not making a judgment on any person, simply describing a situation as best I can.)
There are many people who are angry and frightened and who are willing to "elect" a spokesperson to speak to that anger and fear. What most people miss is that they are not really claiming their power, they are actually giving it away.
The book then focuses on relationship with others. Her again we are responsible--not for changing the other, but for being responsible ourselves for what we feel and what we do.
“Now to understand, once again, that you are the one in charge of all of your relationships forces you immediately to abandon the idea, the belief, and the investment in being one who is being victimized by anyone for any reason. Now we are not talking about physical experience right now. If you are walking down the street and somebody hits you in the nose because they are out hitting people in the nose, yes, in fact, that was created by you on an experiential level, but at the same time what we are really speaking of is the way you self-identify as a victim that brings these experiences to you.
Now it’s much easier to blame someone else for your issues than to take responsibility for them. But to the extent that you have the investment in blame, you become the victim who then cannot help to transform the circumstance that she says she wishes she would, once for and for all, change.”
(personally I though the book got a little bogged down here making a distinction between contract and commitment--so i decided to move on a bit..)
We ended up with:
“The free will of individuals to be in relation to one another always has to be made in an identification of conscious choice, aware choice, and not through systematized jurisdiction by external authority.”
I thought it might be interested for us to examine this week; "How free am I?" How many decisions am I making that are truly free as opposed to those that are dictated or controlled by some arbitrary rules in my head.
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